6 Things You Should Not Do in Your First Date
The First Date is like an interview. You both interview each other to know that she or he is your type.
In the interview, we only speak about what is relevant to the job. We don’t say that we are game addicts or anime addicts in the job interview because it isn’t related.
Most of us are going to be nervous and awkward about our first date, but you can do a lot of things to make it comfortable and enjoyable.
Starting with avoiding a dumb comment… which is going to sabotage your chances. Even if you want to show her that you are interested in her, there are some things you should never say on the first date.
Too Much About Your Ex
No one wants to hear your sad love story on their first date. This advice is suited to almost everyone.
So never talk about your ex on your first date. Because it shows that you are still not ready for dating or you are not relationship material.
You may have heartbreak or be betrayed by your ex-girlfriend but you can have plenty of time to discuss that later when you have a deep conversation with her.
While on the first date do not go into detail about how your ex-girlfriend wronged you. You may be angry with your ex-girlfriend but she thinks you are still not over with her.
When someone asks about your last relationship just tell them that you both are going in different directions, so we broke up. Keep it short and simple.
Judging Their Relationship Status And History
Sometimes you say, “How can someone cute as you not be in relationships?” or “Who can even divorce pretty women like you?”. Don’t say these.
Yeah, I understand you just want to express her beauty without telling her that she is beautiful.
But you have no idea why she divorces her husband or breaks up with her ex. It may be a tragic story.
Simply they may not be made for each other or she may be caught him cheating on her with someone or she may have an abusive or serial killer ex. (Who knows maybe)
Even your good intention can hurt her feelings. If your data never had a serious relationship or looks like a serial dater. It’s OK.
Don’t be so quick to pass judgment because their past relationship is driven by various reasons. You may have an opportunity to know their reasons later.
If you don’t get it, well it’s in the past just let it go. Because she may have some secret that she wants to bury from her heart.
Too Many Personal Questions
The main goal of the first is to get a chance for a second date. Every relationship had to be step by step.
You can’t get close to her or know everything about her on your first date. Well some of them are ok with it. But mostly they don’t.
You are still a stranger to her, would you like if a stranger to ask too many personal questions. Well obviously NO right?.
That’s the same for her. Remember, this is a first date, not an interrogation, they may have an emotional connection about something you ask.
You may ask a personal question but don’t ask too many questions. Make sure your questions don’t cross a line.
Like “What would your parents think of me?”. She still doesn’t make her decision, how would she answer this question.
Criticize About Others
For example a waiter. He may take 1 hour to prepare your meal. Don’t be impatient or rude and mostly don’t curse him in front of her.
You don’t want to leave the first impression of yourself as a rude person. Because the first impression may make many changes.
LoDolce says, “Your date is judging you on how you treat the staff.” Having patience makes you look like a complete gentleman.
Comment About Age
It’s OK to ask your date about her age. But you have to care about how you respond.
You may say “Wow, You’re only 28?” as a compliment, pointing out their age may make your date feel judged.
So careful when it comes to age, most girls are sensitive.
Don’t Order For Her
You may want to show her that you are confident and dependable. But don’t tell women what she wants to eat and order for them.
If you’re regular in that restaurant suggest to her that this dish is great but leave the decision to her.
Take a gentleman route by discussing what she wants to eat first and take a lead by telling the waiter what your date wants.
This not only makes you look like a gentleman but this is the best choice that doesn’t cause any conspiracy.
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